2 View All Next »I want to introduce you to someone. She’s geeky to her Joss-Whedon-loving core, a Whovian, Vertigo-reading, 3rd edition D&D (none of that 4th ed crap thank you very much) gamer with the con stories to prove it. While it’s true that many men will use it as a polite dodge to avoid saying “I’m not attracted to you”, when it comes up over and over again, it’s a sign that maybe there’s more to it.
And don’t get me wrong, this isn’t someone looking for geeky attention or a propped up fantasy. But “intimidating” is almost uselessly vague, especially if they keeps coming up; it covers a multitude of meanings to the point that it means everything and nothing at once.
This is straight from an email "Your better off finding some hottie in a grocery store than online" This is what I got back from a woman that I thought was attractive, and I let her know that..!! in the about me section you talk about what a woman MUST have to meet your desires and needs.
and in another dating site, perhaps, if you say anything similar which expresses this shallow ness and a high need for physically attractive women, i am not surprised in the least that women would write to you.i am interested as to why you so need these women to have these anyway?
She has a job she loves that pays good money, money that she likes to spend on her geeky hobbies and toys. – she hears the same thing over and over again: “You’re too intimidating…” Does this sound familiar to you? In fact, going by the number of emails I get from my readers, it’s most common issue that geek (or geek-curious) women encounter when they’re interested in dating.
She’s well educated, with a rapier wit and a willingness to use it. And yet, Friday still remains the most lonely night of the week when she sees all of the happy, laughing couples making plans, having romantic dinners and enjoying the sex while she’s at home with Fringe on the DVR and a bottle of Malbec breathing in the kitchen. Well, whenever she’s interested in a guy – a guy who’s worth her time, because what’s the point of having standards if she’s not going to stick to ‘em?
some women may think that if you are needing these things so much than this may cause them to feel offended or insecure or be turned off..your apparent need for physical attributes and the fat that YOU are APPARENTLY soooo incredibly good looking yourself.possibly some women may be superficial just like some men on here are, and are clueless as to why "very physically attractive women/men can not date in the real world" something which, i personally find rediculous.
After watching many makeover shows on TV in the USA, I can see how easy it is to make startling changes in a person's appearance with appropriately selected clothes, hairstyle, and cosmetics.Being told “You’re too intimidating” is incredibly aggravating to women.After all, women are encouraged to be assertive, accomplished and independent; being told that they’re “intimidating” sounds like they’re being told to take all of that back and pretend to be something less than what they are. Are geek guys finding a woman’s accomplishments to be somehow threatening? Because “intimidating” is so subject to personal interpretation, I thought it was best to go to the source: geek guys.I conducted an informal (and utterly unscientific) poll on the Dr.Nerd Love Facebook Page, trying to get a handle on what guys mean. So let’s take a look at what men say is intimidating… Men can find beauty intimidating; the more attractive the woman, the more advantages society gives her.